Archive for March 2016

What Grad School is Really Like

What Grad School is Really Like:

The Stress(ed) Researchers

Research Groups under Dr Chang - tired

OMG, I’ve got like 7 weeks of academic study left!

On Depression: I don’t like the phrase “A cry for help.”

Seen in a therapist’s waiting room..

(art by Aria Heller)
not a cry for help

I don’t like the phrase “A cry for help.” I just don’t like how it sounds. When somebody says to me, “I’m thinking about suicide, I have a plan; I just need a reason not to do it,” the last thing I see is helplessness.

I think: Your depression has been beating you up for years. It’s called you ugly, and stupid, and pathetic, and a failure, for so long that you’ve forgotten that it’s wrong. You don’t see good in yourself, and you don’t have any hope.

But still, here you are; you’ve come over to me, banged on my door, and said, “HEY! Staying alive is REALLY HARD right now! Just give me something to fight with! I don’t care if it’s a stick! Give me a stick and I can stay alive!”

How is that helpless? I think that’s incredible. You’re like a marine: Trapped for years behind enemy lines, your gun has been taken away, you’re out of ammo, you’re malnourished, and you’ve probably caught some kind of jungle virus that’s making you hallucinate giant spiders.

And you’re still just going “Give me a stick! I’m not dying out here!

“A cry for help” Makes it sound like I’m supposed to take pity on you. But you don’t need my pity. This isn’t pathetic. This is the will to survive. This is how humans lived long enough to become the dominant species.

With NO hope, running on NOTHING, you’re ready to cut through a hundred miles of hostile jungle with nothing but a stick, if that’s what it takes to get to safety.

All I’m doing is handing out sticks.

You’re the one staying alive.



I don’t know the source or if it has ever graced a therapist’s waiting room wall (after all, it’s not the right message for every client) but it’s a good and true message.

(via Karen T. and Thanks!)


APA Reference Help

APA Reference Help

I’m looking for help turning web links into APA formatted References. Can you help or recommend someone who can? Right now I have about 30 of these to do in a short period of time.

Here is an example. Turn this web link:

into this in-text citation:
(Hejri & Sorenson, 1992)

and this Reference:
Hejri, F., & Sorenson, G.(1992). Life satisfaction among Iranian and American graduate students. Counselling Psychology Quarterly, 5(3), 291-297.


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The best thing I’ve seen all week
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Now I can start on actually doing the things I have prioritized.

If You Think Stress Will Kill You, You’re Right

Big News:
If you think stress will kill you, then you are probably right.
And, if you think that stress won’t kill you, then you are correct.
This study says that high stress increases your chance of dying, but only if you think stress is bad for your health!

That is just the opening of Kelly McGonigal’s TED Talk:How to make stress your friend

Did Daylight Savings Time Mess Up Your Morning?

Did Daylight Savings Time mess up your morning?
It messed up mine.

Do you live in California?
Contact your California assemblyman and state senator to abolish daylight savings time.

  1. Go to the State Assembly page here
  2. Type in your address to find your representatives.
  3. Write a short letter to your assemblyman and senator… It could be as short as “Please support AB2496 and abolish daylight savings time. Thank you!”
  4. Done

Article about a bill to abolish DST

Here was my letter:

Please support Assembly Bill 2496 and end Daylight Savings Time in California. It helps no one, saves nothing, and it causes a considerable bother to every person in the state for several days twice a year. It especially bothers my sleep patterns and those of my baby for about a week!

The most popular reasoning for keeping DST is “to save energy”. Here is a study by the University of California’s Center for the Study of Energy Markets offering evidence that daylight savings time does not save energy.
Thank you,
Lee Sonko